HOW TO REMAIN CALM WITH YOUR CHILD.

This says it all...they will thank you all their Lives.

Trying to stay calm when children's behaviour become overbearing, and reacting accordingly is one step that so difficult to remember especially when upset. It takes a lot of discipline and self control to not loose it and remain rational.

Bringing up your children can be immensely stressful and frustrating, with most parents feel wound up by their children's behaviour at times, occasionally loosing their cool and reacting in a way they later Regret.

Tips for staying cool in the heat of the moment.

1. Have an Open Mind: The way you view your child's behaviour will influence the effect it has on you. Try not to see things in a negative light,  don't think your child is just trying to press your buttons, thereby annoying you.

  This relatively advanced type of thought process does not develop until around age three or four years. Try to view your toddler for what he is; a little person enjoying his new found ability to move around and explore with huge curosity the fascinating world around him, He doesn't understand that his actions affect other people, has not developed the ability for self control so will act on impulse, no sense of time so will just not be able to wait.

If an older child, you feel is deliberately pushing your buttons, try to look at why they may be behaving like that, maybe they feel that's the only way to get what they want? Make sure your child gets attention for all the positive behaviours you want to see more of.


2. Treat the problem: A child needs to know you Love them and what you really despise is the wrong attitude or behaviour they displayed.
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 Avoid being judgemental, making comparisms, curse or neglect your child, for this can bring about emotional distress and low self esteem at the long run.

 Doing these would make your children more trusting and calm to listen and learn from their mistakes, of course they should know mistakes are ways to learn and become better individually.

3. Give Clear Consequences: When a child knows what's coming to him when he defaults, He understands this is the result for my wrong behaviour...both the child and the parent will not feel so wounded up in most situations which can prompt harsh reactions.

 The parents should in clear, crisps and simple tone state what the purnishment is for each default or wrong behaviour, always having in mind to communicate the default to the child's understanding.

 Communicating with your child even before the act is committed helps a lot.

 If a child's done something He's never done before, take ample time before addressing the issue, we make better decisions when we are calm.